Infatuation?
I love this word even though it seems to be somewhat an exaggeration for describing how I feel. How can I be infatuated with the person I am infatuated with? Well, I am talking about “my delicate friend” and I am trying to figure out what has happened, why it has happened and what to do. He dismissed the word “infatuation” as totally wrong or inappropriate.
Well, according to the dictionary “to infatuate” means either make foolish or inspire with a foolish and unreasoning passion. Frankly, I don’t really see how passion can be reasoning. But the word infatuation expresses something extreme – extreme adoration, foolish love, or unreasoning fondness.
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Mikhail Lermontov
I am lonenly and sad
I’m lonely and sad, and in moments of bitterest pain
Have no one to look to, alas…
Desires!.. What use to desire without end, without gain,
While all the best years swiftly, fleetingly pass!
To love… Whom?.. If briefly, ’tis not worth the effort…
Fore’er?..
Vain longing, since love cannot last.
Look into your heart: joy and torment – all paltry, and there
Remains not a trace of the past.
The passions?.. Sweet ailment that reason will easily cure,
A cold word of logic arrest.
And life – what is life if you look round you coolly?-
A poor,
An empty and trivial jest!..
1840
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We did not analyze the word “infatuation”. But we did talk about chemistry. The one that exists in relationships. According to the dictionary, “chemistry” is described as “qualities of personality in interaction”. He did not seem to be too happy that every woman (or so it seems) asks for this elusive concept of chemistry. He said, that he did not study chemistry. Well, neither did I, not this chemistry anyways. We talked about it jokingly and then agreed that we probably should take some lessons.
On my own, I played with some words. Chemistry versus Physistry (the physistry I did study). Law of Attraction. Magnetism. Hypnosis. Chain Reaction. Energy. Inertia. Inertia? That inertia of thinking when you for some reason fall for a certain type. It is a powerful thing. The patterns. But seriously, what is chemistry?
I did look it up on the Internet and the resource that I found is short and sweet and quite to the point.
I am not going to cut and paste, you can read it on your own, provided it still will be available at the moment when you check out the link. If it won’t, let me know, I save it on my computer just in case.
http://astoundingdatingtips.com/blog/2008/10/08/how-chemistry-is-build-between-a-man-and-a-woman/
The love potion apparently consists of three ingredients:
1) PEA – phenylethylamine (adrenaline-like neurochemicals) – fireworks, we see stars, walk on air, natural high
2) Dopamine
3) Norepinephrine (both chemical cousins of amphetamines, that stimulate production of adrenaline) – euphoria, energy, love sparks
The best part is this – the author calls “chemistry” infatuation.
No, maybe the best part is, that the author dismisses the word love.
“Love? No, just “chemistry” and infatuation!
